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Why Does Time Feel as If It is Speeding up?                 It seems almost cliché and most of us can attest that time feels as if to pass faster and faster each year. As another month is comes to a close, many of my clients described this a bewildering experience, thus I thought it would be fun to share the theories for why this happens. There is a bit more science to it than mystery. First, there is a novel memory hypothesis which describes that as we are younger we are con

When we get to caught up in earthly desires – the material world and the ego, we can open the door to increased suffering. We become attached to certain things that almost surely end with our suffering. The first step is awareness in which you are currently mentally entangled with. There are seven kinds of unhelpful attachments to look out for in your own life: 1.      Attachment to stuff – the material goods, and thus one will suffer when the “stuff” is not in their life in

Resilience allows for an effective and helpful response when faced with the inevitable challenges and setbacks that enter our lives. With resilience, you learn from the experience thus becoming more capable for future situations and you will likely uncover unexpected abilities and strengths that were not known or you were unaware of previously. Resilience, as you see through a challenging situation, allows for you to gain clarity in your relationships, (who was there to suppo

Top four reasons coping skills fail - that I see all the time: 1. Timing - using the coping skill way too late when emotional dysregulation is already too heightened to stay connected to the frontal cortex and the executive functioning needed to respond effectively. Instead, specifically when clients struggle to notice initial signs of stress, trying to use regulation skills throughout the day, not waiting for an upset, but purposely and proactively maintaining regulation. 2.

Whenever you are facing a dilemma or conflict of any kind, there is model you can use that can help provide you with some clarity. There...

Some of you may have noticed that I missed July – well I did not miss July, I fully embraced it, though I did not post anything. I have...

It is no surprise that life will provide stressors at any time. While eliminating all stressors is impossible and would be an extreme...

At least once a day, and even that is an understatement, I hear someone say, “I have no motivation.” Here is my favorite learned secret,...

As always, the theme of the week strikes again. There have been many people talking about appreciating that they have time for the...

Change can be scary, sad, unexpected, exciting, and sometimes well-needed. Regardless of if the change you are entering is intentional or...

Yes, once again I am stuck thinking about the theme of the week. I find it so funny how one trend can come up for so many people in so...

The theme of the week: sometimes not taking action is what is truly needed in the moment. This is definitely not always true, but it is...

Our marvelous brains have many great features, one of them being the frontal lobes. Within the frontal lobes comes the amazing set of...

We all make mistakes. It is part of the human condition; there is no escape from it.  Our mistakes come in all forms, sometimes there are...

I do notice a pattern with this time of year, the school year is ending, summer is coming, there is a transition in the season, and the...

There was a definite theme this week. Showing up with people of all ages and in all contexts; I have observed the ineffective impact of...

The themes do not come neatly in weekly doses, but they come close. As I talk with people throughout the week, I am always surprised how...

There are many reasons you may choose to make the choices you make. It comes down to your motivation orientation. There are two main...

When facing life challenges, I have stated before that the two most important life skills are the ability to self-soothe and the ability...

Another sticky point I hear about with others is what they are trying to control. Many people get off-track and start focusing on...